The cut off lists are out. The application dates are coming to an end and the admissions have almost begun. Admissions in India is an important event. It is eagerly awaited like a festival and very much dreaded at the same time.
Every year thousands of students apply to get into the college of their choice. Few get in their first chance, while the rest await the numerous cut off lists that follow.
Students are pulled into extreme pressure, with the decisions to make from like - what stream to which course and which college to choose from.
Moreover professional courses like Engineering and Medical courses don't even leave that space. To get into such field, one is pressurized to study so much that they gather enough information to get through the merit lists. And if that doesn't work out, they are given a choice to try better next year.
Pretty difficult for 16 and 17 year olds, no?
Well education and studying in a well established institution is important. But what is more important is the well being of the students. They can be pushed to their extremes, but is that all they should be focusing all that energy on?
Parents have a responsibility to provide excellent education and at the same time, they need to make sure the students are well prepared - mentally, emotionally and physically for results, and admission procedures like counseling and interviews.
It is the duty of a parent to do so while they expect the students to do their best, study and get into a good college.
How Can you Help Your Children During Admissions?
Understand the Procedures
You may find the whole system of applying, and checking and waiting as tiresome, but for you children you must sit with them through the procedure.
Google on how to find out the results and keep up with news on the release of merit lists and dates. This will help your ward calm down a bit. They won't be anxious about the procedures as you will be with them for support.
Talk and Listen
Ask them what they want to do. And when you do that do not force your aspirations on them. Listen to what your child wants from his or her career.
Understand what they want to do exactly and make note of it. Speak with them about related career opportunities and do some research on your own. Keep talking until they are finally sure of what they want to do. But make sure it doesn't take a form of you forcing them to do a course or choose a college.
Make a List - Together
While looking for admissions, sit with your ward and make a list of courses and colleges that the ward is interested in. Cross check the colleges with courses and see which colleges have the course that he or she wants to go for.
Things like location, tuition fee, accommodation will also have to be looked into. Help your child with all these matters and guide them through.
Support and don't loathe
If your child doesn't get into a college of his or her choice or doesn't get the course he or she wants to study then do not be aggressive. Calm yourself and tell them its okay.
Remember that more than you, they would have been expecting to get in. You being angry will only make things worse for them. So support them and help them find a way out.
Accompany your child
For interviews, especially for UG courses, it might be the first official interview for the student. Support your ward by accompany them and by being there for them.
Give them some tips that they will be able to use during the interview. Remind them to carry all their necessary items. However the interview goes, tell them it will all get fine, because if even if it doesn't you being there will make them get over it easily.
Respect their choice
Your child might want to go for course that you might think is not suitable for him or her. The location or the college that they want to head to may not be appreciated by you, but understand that it is the first decision of their career that they are making and out of all the people that your child knows, you are the one they expect to understand them. So respect their choice.
Once your little bird leaves the nest he or she will have to face many things. From a new environment to new people, they will have to strive to adapt and exist.
So it might be difficult for you let go. At times like this, remember that you yourself made similar decisions and made your career. So let them move ahead and face their problems.
Be there when they need you and talk to them as much as you. Admissions can be a difficult time, both for parents and students. But as a mature adult, the parent must take the first step and make sure their ward is well prepared and ready to take on the world.