Finding a role model is a very important task. Everyone wants to look up to someone to get themselves motivated. We do this to keep ourselves on track and so that we are always focused on reaching our goals and making our dreams come true.
Students have always had an inclination to look for an idol. Be it in terms of the pop culture that they follow, or because the principles of a certain personality inspires them. Students of all ages look forward to meeting their idols and augment their lifestyle according to what wisdom they receive from their idols, directly or indirectly.
It isn't surprising to see thousands of students waiting in line to see a Youtube star, or working hard on their studies so that their parents would let them go for a specific artist's concert. These are instances when the idol is a living human, but for many avid book readers, anime, TV show bingers and Manga, comic readers, idols can also mean the Brightest Witch of Her age, the King in the North, The Dark Knight or Lightsaber holding Jedi.
We try to find inspiration from where ever possible. But we must also remember that sometimes we just need to make sure that the idols that we are following are the right ones. Be a fictional character, a music artist, an actor, an innovator or your friend. You have to make sure that you choose the idol very wisely, as it will affect how you make your own decisions in life. For a student, this is a pretty important step.
You do not have to worry about this. Just follow these simple tips and make sure that you have the right role model to look up to.
The first step to getting a role model is to understand why you need one. The usual reason is to be motivated to do things that you really want to do. So figure out, what are you lacking and what are the things that you would need some motivation to do.
- Find the habits that you would like to change.
- Make a list of the negative aspects that you find in your self
- Make note of the things that you think will make a good change in you.
- Now Make a list of the things you will like to achieve in life.
- List out the qualities that will help you achieve these goals.
Understand and Identify Others
Using the list that you have prepared for you, try to find people whom you think will be perfect to be your role model. Use the positive aspects over the negative aspects.
In that way, the person you will be looking up to will motivate you to reach your aspirations. Make sure you don't just focus on the negative side of a person and see the more positive things about him or her.
Find Someone Who is Focused
The most important thing that you need to do while finding a role model is that the person should be focused on what they do. Productivity is the most powerful thing, and for a student's role model, you need to find someone who works so hard at whatever they do that they inspire you.
Being concentrated and not being lazy is a very strong quality that every student requires and by following a person who does the same, they will be nurturing the same quality.
Look Out For Some Difference
Even though you want someone with whom you can relate and someone you will be able to connect to very easily, make sure you decide on someone who is a bit different from you. You need to grow as a person.
- This will help you adapt to new changes.
- Being out of your comfort zone won;t make you hasty.
- Choosing a role model, who is a bit different will lead you to understand the world in a much better way.
Never Become a Duplicate Version of Your Role Model
This is something that happens to many kids, as they go around looking for inspiration from other people. They start to enact the mannerism, wear the same clothes as their role models, and do things exactly like them. To a point, this becomes unhealthy and you do not have a sense of your own.
- Remember that your role models are your guides.
- Do not follow each and everything they say and do.
- Have your own opinion on things, even if they go against what the role model says.
- Never lose the sense of your self, or think you aren't good enough.
- Accept everything about yourself, and never think that your role models don't have flaws.
At the end of the day, you need to remember that every person, fictional or non-fictional has flaws. We need good role models who will remind us that at the end of the day, it comes down to use and our decisions and so we must remember to make the right decisions.