Childhood to young adult is a long long journey. One day you are going for your first day at school, holding your parents' hands, with a bottle around your neck unknown to the world that you will be introduced to and seventeen years later you are entering college gates, with a sling bag and an ID card on your neck.
All the way from starting school life to dealing with college life, we all grow up. We find more and more responsibilities knocking on our doors. We have more events to participate and organize, more friends, more problems and in all that we try to find some independence.
The desire to be independent is very normal among children and adolescents. They look up to grown-ups and they assume that being an adult comes with the boon of independence. The mere outlook of a busy life and decisions that a person can make, makes it look like independence is a cakewalk.
But, it can be very difficult. Many college going students, especially the ones who stay away from their family find the transition from being dependent to being independent difficult. It can be very stressful to deal with financial, professional and personal aspects of an adult life.
Do not worry. Here are few tips that will help you how you can transition from into an independent person who takes over the world without any doubts.
Don't Take the Easy Road
There can be various instances where you can just say Yes to something that you really don't think you should. The reason for such a response can be based on comfort or because what you are getting in return would be 'too good'.
You should do what you like but don't take the easy road. Work hard for something that you want. That's the first step to being independent. Stick to your principles, and lay down your opinion when you have to. Don't ever take up an option, because that would be the right thing to do.
The wise Mr. Dumbledore said it perfectly, "..there will be a time when we must choose between what is easy and what is right."
Snip Off the Bad Influences
If you are deciding to be independent, you should know that you will have no one to tell you what's the right or wrong thing to do. You will be the master of your own world and life. You will have to be strong enough.
While one starts off with an independent life, there are many pathways that will invite you. Some that might even take you to your own doom. Any form of addiction can be bad.
Overspending on things that you don't require at all. And in all this, if there are people who are forcing you do take such steps you will have to maintain some distance with them.
Save Money - Financial Independence
For a college, student money is a huge matter. Not just in terms of all the necessary items for the academics, but also because a young college going student would be 'hanging out' with his or her friends.
Spending time with your friends is important, but it is also important for you to know that your money is your money at the end of the day.
- Save as much as possible.
- Don't spend money on things you are sure you won't be using again.
- Keep a track of how much you are spending per day and compare on a weekly and monthly basis.
- Don't loan out a lot, and don't keep loaning out to people who do not return the money.
- Keep a safety amount that you will only use in case of an emergency.
- Start saving a little and with time increase the amount.
Focus on a Career
You are a young adult who has to make firm decisions now. Career is one of the important ones. You don't have to fix on one thing and just keep cribbing about how much work you have to do. Career is something that grows with time, what you start today may land you up somewhere higher, but different.
- Write down all the options that you have and are interested in.
- See a Career Counsellor or read online about unique career options.
- Analyze your strengths and weaknesses in each option that you have.
- You can begin taking online courses or coaching classes to strengthen your knowledge in some fields.
- As you are doing your bachelors, you will be developing your CV on the other hand.
- In some time you will find something that you can focus on and a whole lot of experience.
Plan a Schedule
This a very big part of growing up as well as being independent. You decide what you have to do and you make a checklist out of the things. The main aim is to successfully finish off all the things that are present on the list.
Independence comes with the responsibility of taking care of yourself. You will have to make sure that all your requirements are met, and you yourself have to make sure of it.
- Keep the checklist simple, and with words that remind you of the task instantly
- Have the checklist somewhere around you, preferably your phone.
- Tick or scratch out the tasks that you have completed.
- Develop a habit of building a schedule for each day
Be Considerate and Respectful of People Around You
People have an assumption that being independent would mean, they will have no time for other people. Well, that is not what independence is all about. You need to understand others and give time to others. Talk to your friends, family, and co-workers and listen to them, but at the same time be sure you are there for yourself as well.
Independence can be a beautiful thing if we develop it over time. Rome was not built in a day, and independence goes somewhere in the same lane. It takes time and effort.
So if you think you are ready to fly above the skies, all on your own you should start now!